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January Madness

Well, what a crazy 3 weeks it’s been to start this month/year.  I will be the first to admit that I haven’t kept up with the gym as I had promised myself, but for some reason outside forces have kept me from getting back there.  Week one was a vicious sinus infection.  There I was New Year’s Eve all happy that I thought I had cheated the sickness around me only to find it hit me early that morning and went full force the rest of the week.  TERRIBLE!  Ok!  I do enough drugs to get myself to get to the gym on Monday, everything is coming up Milhouse and boom!  Family medical emergency goes down and I had to put my life on pause (willfully and gladly I thought I should mention here) to take care of business.  This past Saturday rolls around and it’s my first day to really sleep in in two weeks.  Everything is going cool and I decide to get to my happy place which is cleaning my house and doing laundry when all of a sudden during a 5 minute break at my dining table, one of my chairs decided to take out a finger and there I go bleeding out like some kinda moron who apparently didn’t learn to fear and respect dining table chairs.  Hahahaha!  I laugh at it now because at the time I was literally telling my walls “Really, dude?!  For F’s sake!  I can’t catch a break, man!  If it ain’t one thing it’s the other.  Alright, stupid finger, you can stop bleeding any time you’d like dude.  *insert various other vulgarities here*” So, here I sit at week 3 of this month continually staring at the base of my left middle finger that is still throbbing with pain any time I move it because the cut is at the very base near the webbing between index and middle finger wondering why it is that things are keeping me from getting to my life goals.  What did I ever do, man?  In the words of The Dude in one of my favorite films, The Big Lebowski, “I can’t be worried about that shit man.  Life goes on.”  And it will, my friends.  I may have lost the field at the starting gate, but you better know that I’ll catch up and pass everybody in the race too!  It’s just a matter of time.

In happier news, even with all of the chaos that has engulfed my life, I think I’m really finally settling into a good groove to start off the year.  I decided to finally pull the trigger and get to a project I’ve been having on my mind to do with the house and fill a blank wall with one of my 50 or so movie one-sheet posters I had from my time working at one of the now no-longer-in-existence movie theaters in town and although I really wanted to frame up my Jay and Silent Bob Strike Back one sheet, I chose Ocean’s Eleven instead.  It just made more sense to me.  It fit a few spots I wanted to represent:  comedy, adventure, and of course Las Vegas.  It’s pretty funny when I think about it.  I have little things everywhere in my house that represent little pieces of things that mean the world to me.  I have memorabilia and posters/flags of some of my favorite bands, rally towels and collectables from some of my favorite sports teams in between cool specialty designs of some of my favorite bottles of booze (all empty of course), pictures of family and religious articles proclaiming my Catholic faith, and of course my drums are all in there too.  Almost everything that made me who I am today are there for me to see.  I was looking around yesterday after I put up that one-sheet, one of my 25+ year old Metallica posters, and a Beatles poster I bought about 2 years ago and thought to myself, “Hell yeah, man.  This is you.  Be proud of all you’ve accomplished, man.  It’s been a helluva ride these past 36 years and things can only continue to go up from here.  Be proud of who you are, where you come from, and where you’re going.”  It feels good to have some pride in myself for once in my life.

And you know what?  Things are looking up for me.  Once this stupid finger heals, and I don’t have to worry about MRSA or any other infection I could get with an open cut on my hand where I could easily grab something at the gym, I’ll get back to that full force… Well unless some other calamity occurs in my life before then.  UGH!!!  And sooner than later here, the band is going to start back up and hopefully we’ll get to put a project we’ve been talking about on wax.  Just playing music again with my brothers will be good enough even if the project we have doesn’t pan out.  Overall, it continues to be the happiest time I’ve ever had in my life.  Time to hope that I can finally move this train down the tracks.  I have no more time for delays!

Take it easy, y’all!


Peace out 2016, Holler at me 2017

This is it.  We made it, y’all.  2016 and its crazy ass has finally come to an end.  Globally, I must say we had a pretty bad year.  Lots of terrorist acts, lots of war, and lot of death of people who are known by a lot of other people came to pass this year.  I know a lot of people are upset about it and have been taking note about how bad it’s been for us as a whole.  I tend to agree with them, but in what has been my nature more strongly for the past 5.5 years, I tend to focus on the positives.  I had a lot of positive things happen in my life this year.  In January, I made the decision to not live with anxiety and a too large of amount of stress for me to handle and the positive outcomes came from there.  I did fail, however, to get started on my weight loss goals but that’s to come later.

More great things came this year.  Most notably, I cut half the commute from my drive to both work and my parish and moved to central El Paso and even though I didn’t have any reservations about it, I had no idea at how awesome it would turn out to be.   Everything that I need or like is minutes away and the peace and quiet I get now is an even bigger Godsend.   Another great thing that came about from my change mid-year was that a true nature I’ve always had really flourished like a wildfire.  That true nature I speak of is my introvert nature.  I’ve always had it, but it wasn’t until I was truly on my own that it just consumed me.  I have honestly never been as happy in my life as I am now.  It’s the greatest thing ever.  Now, I have nobody to put a fake act on for, nobody to try to conform to, etc.  I can truly be me now and me is that dude who would rather be left alone, hates and honestly feels sick down to my bones to be in a crowd of strangers for more than a few minutes, who loves to spend time with only a select group of friends, and who finds comfort in music, movies, and the general arts of all kinds.  Granted, the last thing is something that more than just introverts to, I find that I don’t have to feel weird about my musical tastes because I’m liberated to be who I want to be without judgement.

With that all said, my very positive personal life changes has brought about resentment and probably a loss of friendships along the way with it too, but if you want me to be completely honest, I’ll say that if people can’t accept who I am, who I aspire to be, and what I stand for personally, then they don’t need to be in my life.  Simple as that.  I am sick and tired of being surrounded by negativity.  Again, for the past 5 years, I’ve done my best at always living looking at the positive in things and people and I have completely stopped dwelling in the bad in people and in things.  Sure, I’m aware they exist, but I refuse to let it consume me.  I also never have held grudges, but even more so now I forget and forgive as Jesus told Peter in Matthew Chapter 18 verse 21,

“21 Then Peter came and said to Him, “Lord, how often shall my brother sin against me and I forgive him? Up to seven times?” 22 Jesus said to him, “I do not say to you, up to seven times, but up to seventy times seven.”

I’m always going to be the same funny, happy, comedic (even horribly punny and cheesy), stupid moron.  I have no time to say out loud or to myself “remember what this jerk did to me?  F that person!”  Nah, that’s stupid.  I refuse to waste my life that way.

So, Sunday morning will bring on 2017 and the renewal of hopes and dreams for everybody, myself included.  I’ve never been one to do New Year’s resolutions, but I will say this.  I’m going to put my plans in motion to get myself in a better physical shape than round.  (LOL!) and I will continue to be the person I am regardless of the consequences of the judgements of others.  I’m going to be me and do what makes me happy.  That’s pretty much stay home, stay focused on my weight loss, laugh a lot more, spend time with the friends and family that accept me for who I am and don’t want to change me, watch more awesome movies, listen to great music, and hopefully make awesome music too.  I have plenty of room for those who want to join me, but if you don’t want to or want to get off the ride; I’m not going to stop you either.  In the words of “King” George Strait, “I ain’t here for a long time; I’m here for a good time.”

Back to Work and Hello Holiday Season!

What a week this one is turning out to be.  I know it’s only Tuesday, but it feels like this week is going to drag out forever.  I think it’s this schedule that I’m trying my best to jump start myself back into.  When I am behaving on my gym and eating habits and schedule I run a 16 hour day from 3am to 7pm during the week.  Getting to sleep at 7pm on Sunday nights if I happen to be away from home sucks and I always have a hard time waking up to get to the gym on Monday mornings.

That’s pretty much what happened to me yesterday after this (welcomed) 3 day weekend.  I went to my dad’s house and left after watching some of the NFL post game shows to see what they were saying about my Dallas Cowboys’ win against Pittsburgh.  I knew I was running late, but I couldn’t help myself.  I wanted to hear the experts’ take on what they thought of the team.  I got home with about enough time to only lose about half an hour of sleep, but I think my brain was still in love-glow mode thanks to the awesome win AND the incredible performance Alex Bowman put up in the 88 car (GO HENDRICK MOTORSPORTS AND THE REST OF TEAM CHEVY btw!!!!!) in the NASCAR race from Avondale, Arizona.   It was a good sports weekend for your boy over here, I’ll tell you.

Anyway, I decided to take a page out of Pee-Wee Herman’s playbook from his film Pee-Wee’s Big Adventure and play a trick BACK on my brain and went to sleep even earlier last night so that I wouldn’t wake up sleepy at 3am.  Well, a-hole brain got the last laugh as I woke up rested and ready to go at the crack of 2am this morning.  What the hell, right?  Instead of going back to sleep, I decided to make myself breakfast then hit up the gym afterwards.  Oddly enough, I’m not the only weirdo who goes to the gym between the hours of 3 and 4 in the morning.  There was a good amount of people there this morning at 3:30 when I got there.  I think I could have done better at the gym, but I’m not going to tell myself off quite yet.  This is a long road I’m going down and if I start complaining now, I’ll never get to my destination.  I gotta take each step at a time.

In other news, I’m still freakin’ excited about the holidays.  I can’t really tell you what the exact reason for this is, but I haven’t felt this excited about the fall/winter and the holidays that pass in them in quite some time.  I already purchased the soon-to-be-cooked meats, and I’ll get the other stuff I’m going to make myself over the upcoming weekend for next Thursday, aka Thanksgiving.  The only question is whether or not I’m going to make the 3 layer pumpkin cake (that people still talk about here at work years later) for myself (and friends and/or family who want to come have some) or not.  That being said, next Thursday should be a fun day filled with a parade, a meal, and some football all in the comforts of my home.  It’s going to be the first thanksgiving in my new place, so I think that’s why I’m looking forward to it so much.  I’m just hoping that I don’t get guilted in to having to go somewhere else.  I want to stay at home and enjoy my cooking even if it’s just for me.

Now I’m wondering how all of you are going to be spending the holidays this next month and a half.  What are some of your traditions?  I’m pretty curious to be honest.  Do y’all make a big deal out of these days?  I know I have followers from other countries, so Thanksgiving is out of the picture for you, but the religious celebrations that happen in mid-late December and the ringing in of the New Year are pretty common everywhere, right?

Cheers to new beginnings

I have been meaning to write this out for quite some time in one form or another, but time has escaped me.  Not tonight though.  Time be damned, I feel like I have to write this out.  Yet again, as I seem to always write, things have been changing in my life.

See, I finally started to get serious about changes a few years back and of course setback after setback has happened.  Mainly those setbacks have been all my fault, but some of those have been roadblocks that I know will still be in my path for quite some time.  The thing about those bastards still there is that I can see the time where those roadblocks will no longer be there and it’s really gotten me anxious.  I just want the next 12 months to pass.  I want this last little bit of my current life to be over!  I’m normally a very patient dude, but being able to see that finish line has me going crazy.

Not to stray too far away from the point of my ramblings here, but as some of you know, I’ve gone back home to hotels.  It was a very odd turn of events, and believe me, I wasn’t actively looking to go back.  Things just… happened.  I’m glad they did, honestly.  I missed it.  I had one of those Cinderella moments (the glam metal band, not the character) where I heard Tom sing “You don’t know what you got, ‘till it’s gone!!!!”  Well, that’s what I felt about working at hotels.  It first hit me the first time I stayed at a hotel after I went to contract for Tio Samuel.  I got a glimpse of the life that I left behind and I instantly missed it.  I had to get back, one way or another.  I kinda half assed tried here and there, and I even almost made it back to Vegas where I’ve tried to get gigs before!  Alas, southern Nevada wasn’t meant to be and I let my dream go for a bit.  I had other problems to deal with… like getting rid of my damn debt, which I’ve come to realize now is my penance for completely ruining my own life from age 18 to about 30.  12 years of complete stupidity and I have nothing good to show for it.  Sure, there were small victories in that time period, but mostly I spent that time checking off every sin in the book, hell, sometimes I’d commit some repeatedly just to be sure that I checked it off my list.  I was an idiot.  I literally pissed away my money and I dig myself a pretty deep hole.  Awe, hell, you know me… I love a good challenge!  Not that I ever really tackle most of those challenges because of my intense fear and hatred of rejection, but there are some challenges that I kinda like.  Here’s one in particular:  There are times in life that I like to completely destroy everything good just to see if I can rebuild and make it better!  I’m an idiot like that.  Well, check that.  Was.  I think I got it right this time.  Thanks to the grace of our Lord Jesus Christ and the beautiful gift He gave me of putting important people BACK into my life and letting them show me my true path in life.  If it wasn’t for that, I would have still be a lost idiot messing up my life in different ways.  Now, I find myself with all the life experiences that I could have asked for to know what NOT to do, plus the drive to be the best person that I can now and God willing for the rest of my life.  I’m on this path now where I’m slowly letting go of all the bad in my life, letting in all of the great as I move along to the small goals I have set for myself along the way.  Slowly but surely, things are getting better and falling into place as they should.

I’m excited, y’all.  My penance is nearly through and all I can see is a bright future.  Physical things are going to get fixed… like my beautiful Bestia, for one!  LOL.  She has been through hell!  Dents, broken pieces, all due to freak incidents, but within the next few months, she’ll be repaired and back to new.  I jumped the gun on my other baby, my beautiful Tama Silverstar Custom.  There were small things that needed to be fixed, and I just could NOT pass up the deal I saw for that Iron Cobra JR double bass petal.  The next thing to look forward to is saving up the few K’s it’s going to take to get a new place to crash and some accessories to put in it.  Thankfully, I won’t need much.  All this should take me 12 months, but then… it’s onto the next goal.  What that next goal is, I really have no idea.  I suppose I would call it just really making sure that I enjoy life more.  Enjoy the small things.  Don’t take anything or more importantly anyONE for granted.  Cherish those that God has put into my life.  Things like that.  Sometimes I find that I fall short in doing those things, but I got to make a better effort.  If I can save the ducats, I want to try to make it out to north Texas more often to see dear friends and family of mine in the DFW area… I want to make it a priority to go camping in the area more like the Gila, Cloudcroft, and other places in the otherwise wasteland that is New Mexico… I want to be able to take those reckless 36 hour trips to Las Vegas for no other reason than to say that I really wanted to have a beer at the Yardhouse at the Linq and a burger at BLT… and well see all my dear friends there too! Stuff like that, I want to do.  I WILL do once I get everything sorted out.  I gotta do the things that make me happy and spend the time with the people that make me happy.  There are a handful of people and I hope they know who they are!!!  I love them so very much and very deeply.  I want them to share in this crazy journey with me.  Exciting times are coming up, amigos!

I’ll try to blog things out some more when I get the time to really form my ideas into more than random thoughts.


Love you all!