Salutations, y’all! I hope this Thanksgiving week (for those in the U.S.) hasn’t been all that bad to you. As for myself? As always, things could be better, but they could be a lot worse as well. There’s been something on my mind lately and I think it’s about time that I share some of it. The topic of “putting myself out there”, marriage, and the alternative being the religious life, has been circling my life again as of late. I don’t recall myself talking too much about it previously, so I figured I might as well give my take a shot here and now.
As the people that know me or have at least talked to me outside of this digital world know, I’m a pretty quiet and reserved dude. I really don’t talk too much because I’m of the mind that unless I really have something to say, I’m not going to talk just for the sake of talking. On the other hand, if somebody asks me a question about a topic that I am interested in or involved in in some sort, I can go on forever talking about whatever subject that may be.
One of topics happens to be my personal relationship life, if that’s a good way to put it. Inevitably this topic will come up at one point or another with everybody when they start to get to know me if they want to. I get asked things like “So, you’ve never been married?” and “So, you don’t have any kids?” followed by “Do you want to get married eventually?” and/or “Do you want kids?” In turn my answers turn into a brief history over how I’ve left myself open for said opportunities and have gotten my heart and soul destroyed in return. All of those individual lessons and my ever-growing faith in our Lord Jesus Christ has taught me to choose a lot more wisely when it comes to that subject. Those two reasons pretty much get in my discussions with other friends about why I refuse to just go out and try and get with any woman who will have me, or go out and do these one night stand type of deals or whatever else. It doesn’t appeal to me at all. Actually, to be honest, I find the idea repulsive. I can already hear my a-hole friends getting their loving insults ready to throw my way over even stating that, but it’s true.
Of course, after that is all said, the follow up comment to that usually is “well, if you’re not going to put yourself out there and go to places and whatever, why don’t you just become a priest!?” L O L!!!! I’ll note that I’m laughing because the majority of my friends are protestants and have NO idea of what the priestly life entails. Sure, it’s a very important job and a great blessing from God, but it’s not for every man. It’s not as easy as “Well! I couldn’t find a wife, much less even a girlfriend, so I might as well just enter the seminary! Woo!” A lot of thought, prayer, and most of all a calling from God is needed for a man to successfully enter a seminary and dedicate their lives completely to Christ and His church. There are no children of your own, no marriage, nothing of the sort. I know in my heart of hearts, God’s plan calls for that in my life eventually. And if not that, then it calls for a solitary life as a layman and not in a religious order. Even though many people have told me that my character is that of a priest or what they believe a priest to be, I know it’s not where I should go with my life.
With that being said, going back to the marriage thing, I don’t want to just get married for the sake of being married either. I know everybody wants to do things right and whatnot, but I really truly believe it. If I ever do find that woman, I want to do things the right way. I want to abstain from committing impure acts either alone or together. I’ve done my fair share of committing grave and mortal sins for the fun of it and it’s gotten me nowhere. I want to base my relationship on God, the way it should be. After all, one of the main points of marriage is to help to get your spouse to Heaven. I want to have that type of relationship where that’s going to be put on Front Street right off the bat. I know our society has made a mockery of traditional family values and that moral sense of obligation that I’m talking about, but I believe it with my whole heart. In reality, we only get one shot at it in the eyes of God as it is (that is if you get married in the Church and go into the marriage with the full intention of said sacrament) so you are right if you think that I’m going to be really selective with my criteria.
I really hope it happens, to tell you the truth. I hope that I’ll be part of one of those families that I see every Sunday morning at Mass. Mom, dad, and children all building a more solid relationship with God one day at a time, one prayer at a time, one Mass at a time. That would be cool.
Well, that’s all I got for today y’all. Have an awesome rest of the week! And for those reading in the U.S., have a great Thanksgiving! Get food drunk and enjoy the day!